What about the dad?

So taking about postpartum for the mother. But what about the recently turned dads?

Life has changed for them too but who can they lean on for support?

Just like the new mother their life is also changing. YES they can still just leave the house, shower, go to the gym and sleep. The baby will be fine without them.

But they are sleepless as well, worried for their loved once, maybe even a little sense of useless when it comes to the baby and mother.

But this post isn’t to highlight what they could or should be doing (this will come)

But who takes them into their arms and let’s them know everything will be fine? They are challenged emotionally as well.

When you ask them how they are doing they will say something like “yeah ok.. but not allowed to complain”

They are allowed to feel miserable as well, lost and confused. Suddenly nothing is the same for them. They are not coming home to the bliss of they happy pregnant girlfriend but a over tired hormonal mother.

One thing is for sure, the person that would normally help them with there trouble is in no condition to help them (and they surly shouldn’t) but who they turn to.

Society is still sifting, it is very unlikely that they will have heard about men taking care of their partners or even being present at birth.

You are supposed to be the supporter and the brick in the wall, no time for “weak” emotions.

But now baby’s don’t get born in tribes anymore where there will be a whole female network taking care of the mother, so it’s a job they are learning by doing with not many roll models to have seen before.

So yes dads it is completely ok to also feel overwhelmed !! But you need to find a right place and person to do so.

One great things which I hear more and more are men circles. Where men get together and talk about life. It’s worth looking into it. As the parter on your side will now have her cup full for a while taking care of baby’s and her needs. Which is what she needs to do.

Support for dad —> dad —> mum —>baby

A doula can be a great asset not just for mum but also for the dad to have someone to talk to about what’s happening to them.